“You must be a ticket, cause you got fine written all over you.” “Are you a library book, cause I’m checking you out.” The statements above are two examples of pick up lines that were used by men to flirt with girls. The art of “picking up a chick” is very complex and arduous. One of the problems that some men face is the lack of self confidence or the feeling that they have no “game.” The idea of charming a lady and getting their number is a rite of passage for many young American men. The man that can charm the most ladies is considered to be a “player.” The ultimate goal of flirting with a woman is to start a relationship. While flirtation and charming a lady has been practiced for years, it has become more apparent that many men simply are not able to flirt with a girl. Examples of this inability to talk to girls can be seen in pop culture with the movie Hitch, where a “ladies man,” Will Smith, is hired to help Kevin James character start a relationship with one of his clients.
Recently, a show on VH1 shows the trials and tribulations of various men who have no game. The Pick Up Artist is a reality show in which contestants have to demonstrate their ability to pick up chicks. The creator of the show, Erik von Markovik(Mystery), is called a seduction artist and is the person who teaches the contestants the art of picking up girls. The show narrows down the ability to picking up girls to an almost exact science, showing that by following simple formula, any man can seduce a girl.
In my opinion, I feel that the show The Pick Up Artist shows objectifies women much like other reality shows. To say that there is an easy step by step guide to flirting with a woman is false. Women have different tastes and personalities and I personally believe that there is no one way to flirt with a girl. The problem with this show is that many young men that I have talked to believe that this method used by Mystery is factual. The women that are showed in this television show are usually people who are found in clubs and not an accurate representation of the female population. This show, in my opinion, is disrespectful not only by objectifying women but also show that men are only concerned with flirting and hooking up with women. The only purpose of being a “pickup artist” is to sleep with women and have fun. I have to disagree with this assessment. While some men pick up girls for this reason, others flirt and charm girls because they want to start a relationship and I feel that the Pick Up Artist does not show this side of attracting girls.
5 comments:
I agree that this show is not very factual or based on real life at all. I hate these kinds of reality TV shows because they try to stereotype people and have women on the shows who fit what the producers think will best exemplify the show. Usually it is someone in her mid-twenties showing too little clothing and speaking like an uneducated fool. Plus, if this is the type of woman the men in the show are trying to "pick up", she clearly doesn't represent the typical female who is seeking a relationship and therefore showing that the average woman would have to be "picked up" by another, more sophisticated, means!
I have seen this show and agree that it is not a true representation of the dating world. The clubs that the men on the show go to are set up with hidden cameras all over so that the host can watch them and tell them what to do. If the producers can put cameras in the club who knows what else they set up. I'm sure they pick which girls are in the club and maybe even tell them who to talk to just for the sake of good television.
While I have not seen this show, from what others are saying I certainly hope that guys aren't taking dating and "pick up" advice from it. I feel like there are so many "reality" shows on TV now that are actually quite far from reality. We're given this false sense of what our lives should be like and how we should go about doing things and how we should be interacting with others. Whatever happened to just talking with someone you found interesting?
I have to agree with this blog. I saw a preview for the show and thought it was an absolute joke. Personally, I don't believe there is any one specific formula to flirting or even introducing yourself to a member of the opposite sex. Whether you're a man trying to talk to a woman, or a woman trying to talk to a man; it all depends on your confidence level and your demeanor when socializing with others. Some people have a difficult time socializing with people in general; it just all depends who you are.
Honestly, I think that if a guy is himself around a girl, then he has more of a chance of 'picking her up.' I truly believe that there is someone for everyone and it may take years to meet that person. If a guy can't 'pick up' a girl, it may just be that his personality sucks. This 'reality show' is a joke. Just like a few 'reality shows' on MTV, I think it is scripted because things just don't happen like that in real life. I don't think that the world needs another 'reality show,' especially on a 'music' channel, that attempts to help people find their soul mate. If it is meant to be, it will come with time. To objectify women like this is wrong. However, there is another 'reality show' on, I think Bravo, called "Date My Ex" or something like that. It objectifies men the same way.
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